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A child marriage free India, starting from Assam!

A child marriage free India, starting from Assam!

Assam crackdown on child marriage: What does the law say?

I remember how the classic film “Balika Badhu” presented the topic of marriage between two children in India at a tender age. Child marriages were not uncommon in our country in the pre-Independence era. Forward to half a century later, it is unfortunate that we are still discussing the topic of child marriage in the country today. To look at it from a religious perspective and classify it as a sort of an interference with a community, religion or culture is simply illogical.

Marriage not only for girls but for boys who have not attained the age of 18 leads to many social problems in the community. To begin with, it contributes to India’s population that is bursting at the seams. Moreover, it leads to mental health issues since the person does not get a chance to develop fully, both mentally and emotionally, at such a young age.

To opine that these young girls should be given a chance to perform beyond their household chores and bring out their talent is so passe when we are approaching a worldwide recession. The priority should be to educate and skill the women folk as much as men so that they can contribute to their household income. This will improve their finances and bring their families out of poverty.

If we look at the figures, they are extremely disappointing.

According to The National Family Health Survey-V (NFHS 2019-21) nationally 23.3% women between the age group of 20-24 were married off before attaining the age of 18. This means these women merely got a chance to get some basic education, that too only in a few cases, before they started their reproductive cycle. It also means, they would not be fully equipped to educate their future generations.

A report from Unicef states that pregnancy-related complications are the number one cause of death among girls between 15 and 19 years of age. Since adolescent girls are still growing themselves, they are at greater risk of complications if they become pregnant.

This contributes to an increase in the overall Maternal Mortality rate or MMR in the country.

It is great that MMR in the country declined from 130 per lakh live births in 2014-16 to 122 in 2015-17, and further dropped by 9 points to 113 in 2016-18. By 2017-19, India’s MMR was already down to 103, against a global MMR of 211 (2017).

However, as per the Sample Registration System (SRS) report of Registrar General of India(RGI), the MMR for the state of Assam is the highest in the country.

Is it only a coincidence that Assam also has the highest number of child marriages?

The efforts being carried out in this regard by the Assam Government need to be applauded. CM Himanta Biswa Sarma’s invoking of the stringent laws such as POCSO (The Protection of Children from Sexual Offences Act) could serve as a heavy deterrent in dealing with this social menace.

Instead, sadly, this issue is being targeted for political gains and vote bank.

A few months ago, with the support of around 70000 women from across the country, a nationwide Child Marriage Free India campaign in 10000 villages in over 500 districts was launched. The campaign was led by Nobel laureate Kailash Satyarthi.

It is such campaigns at the grassroots that give us hope for social reforms in rural India. And so should be supported beyond political and intellectual differences. As only physically and mentally astute citizens can usher in a more economically and socially developed India.

Infect, this campaign should run in other states with similar child marriage figures. And, should be supported by all political parties leaving their political and religious differences aside. As it affects a great number of our girls that are unable to completely live out their childhood.

The secrets and benefits of yoga: A fight with Diabetes

The secrets and benefits of yoga: A fight with Diabetes

The secrets and benefits of yoga: A fight with Diabetes

Yoga’s many health benefits include aiding in the management of Diabetes without leading to its dangerous complications. Yes, you can indulge in sweets, cakes, and chocolate occasionally, but remember that the central teachings of yoga are self-control and discipline, as well as avoiding overindulgence. So, when you practice yoga regularly and follow its principles, it is your best insurance to lead a healthy and long life.

Diabetes is not curable. But you can keep it at bay!

It is early in the evening. You just had a late, heavy dinner, and you are full, but something is still missing. You just can’t put your finger on it, and it suddenly flashes on you – you missed your dessert-the eternal ‘muh meetha (mouth sweetening)’ moment. You stare into the fridge, the light illuminating frozen dinners and boxes of leftovers, and then your eyes go to what you have been searching for – that box of sweets that your relatives had brought the other day, bless their hearts. As you dive into the divine world of ‘pedas’ and ‘rasgullas,’ the old newspaper wrapped around the packet catches your eye. Right before you can sink your teeth in, you see an article on Diabetes peeking into your soul, questioning your decision with a headline that announces, ‘1.5 million deaths are directly attributed to diabetes each year’. You remember talking with your relatives yesterday about how their 48-year-old neighbor had kidney failure due to high sugar and died last week. You congratulate them on their audacity to bring sweets, and an eternity of inner monologue later, you keep those sweets, untouched and virgin-like, back in the fridge as you stare at them longingly. At the same time, you close the fridge door and walk away.

Excuse my amateurish attempt at humor, as there is nothing humorous about Diabetes. There are currently nearly 80 million people with Diabetes in India, and by 2045, 135 million Indians will have the disease. Worldwide, the number is even scarier, as according to the WHO, 422 million people around the globe have Diabetes, and the number is expected to rise.

Diabetes is a “slow poison.” It is a disease associated with other conditions like high blood pressure leading to heart attacks, kidney failure, blindness, and other ailments. Diabetes is not curable, but it can be managed. Therefore, it is of utmost importance to understand how you can live a decent lifestyle by enjoying sweets in moderation and at the same time get your Diabetes controlled. Unfortunately, there is no drug known to mankind that can cure Diabetes. While a significant armamentarium of medications can help control your blood sugar, some come at the cost of having side effects. Many effective diabetic drugs have fallen into disrepute because they do not protect the heart. The present dictate to pharmaceutical manufacturers is only to discover medicines that have proven protection for the heart. The simple reason being a diabetic mostly dies due to heart disease or its complication.

It is essential to understand that medications, even when taken appropriately, do not cure or treat diabetes mellitus. This disease is called a lifestyle disease, and its treatment requires extensive lifestyle changes, with medications secondary to it. Millions of people have successfully been able to keep their Diabetes absolutely in control after engaging in radical lifestyle changes. Though it sounds complicated and impossible, it will disrupt your regular work and almost certainly entail giving up your profession. Fortunately, such fears are uncalled for because all you need to do is practice yoga for half an hour 4/5 days a week, including 10 minutes of mindfulness and meditation. You might be thinking that it is a long prescription. It is not. Unlike our teeming millions of “asana experts,” that fill the yoga space in social media with their verbose claims of how they do challenging yoga postures (asanas) or post pictures of themselves bent at every joint. Unfortunately, none of that is yoga! More importantly, this is different from the yoga you need to do. Whether you would like preferable call some of them ” monkey dances” is something I will let you decide. Yoga is a practical and effective lifestyle modification that involves Asanas (Postures), Dharana (Mindfulness), and Dhyana (Meditation). Whether you believe it or not, at least seven of the eight components of yoga are essential to induce a lifestyle change. Yoga space has been unfortunately polluted by half-baked experts who need clinical training. Whether yoga works or not in Diabetes is not based on my personal experience. I would then be no different from the “erudite” neighborhood yoga practitioner or Guru who believes their experience is all that is required to prove that it works. Unfortunately, clinical medicine, including yoga therapy, is a scientific proposition propelled by research and not by witch doctors’ voodoo medicine! 

Regular walks, combined with specific yoga poses like Dhanurasana and multiple twisting poses, can be helpful for people with Diabetes, as it helps burn off the excess sugar that has built up in their bodies and stimulate insulin production. In addition, Surya Namaskara, or Sun Salutation, is a sequence of 12 powerful yoga asanas, which is another effective way to reign in your rising blood sugar level. However, it can be modified by doing a faster variation that consumes more calories.

Another point on which modern medicine agrees with yogic principles is that stress exacerbates Diabetes. When stressed, your body releases hormones that can cause blood sugar to increase and blood pressure and heart rate. In addition, multiple studies have found that yoga can improve anxiety and stress. Depression and anxiety are common reactions to stress, and practicing yoga regularly can-do wonders for your mental health. However, asanas or postures have minimal effect on reducing stress on bringing about respite to mental aberrations like anxiety or depression. Thus, it is essential to practice the entire gamut of yoga, which includes concentration, mindfulness, and meditation.

Last but not least, ‘you are what you eat’ might be quite literal for people with Diabetes. Indulging your sweet tooth urges might make you sweeter, literally, by increasing the blood sugar level in your body. This, unfortunately, has multifarious unseen ramifications, including blocking blood vessels leading to heart attack, stroke, or even amputations! People who have Diabetes should be aware of how essential it is, in addition to their yoga practice, to maintain a disciplined approach to their Ahara (diet). Yoga is effective in bringing blood sugar levels under control, particularly when combined with dietary modifications. If you have Diabetes, the most important thing you can do for your health is to pay close attention to what you put in your body, basically your diet. A diet that includes plenty of whole grains, fresh fruits, and raw veggies is low in calories and fat and contributes to an alkaline diet of high-quality natural foods. Avoid overeating by eating modest, frequent meals.

Best life lessons from Bhagavad Gita to overcome stress

Best life lessons from Bhagavad Gita to overcome stress

Best life lessons from Bhagavad Gita to overcome stress

Bhagavad Gita: Generally most people are stressed out these days. On top of that tremendous stress and anxiety have gripped Indian professionals around the world, after big tech companies underwent a massive layoff. Losing jobs suddenly is an evident pain, as we all know how important earning money is for keeping the basics of life on track.

In these situations, perhaps Bhagavad Gita could be of great help. When a confused Arjuna turned to his charioteer, Lord Krishna, for advice at the Kurukshetra, Lord Krishna stated some rational philosophical concepts that are relevant even today. Stress at work or in personal life can bog you down and debilitate you from doing any good to yourself or others. In fact the Bhagavad Gita talks about ways to handle stress.

This epic scripture has the answers to all our problems. It was considered a spiritual dictionary by Mahatma Gandhi and was a book of inspiration for many leaders of the Independence movement.
In his book ‘Universal Message of Bhagavad Gita Volume 1’ Swami Ranganathananda says, ‘In normal life difficulties come. If you can bear a little, probably things would be better a little later. When you swim in the ocean, the waves come and buffet you, dash against you. So when the waves come, duck underneath; and it goes away, you come up again. That is the way to deal with the waves. They come and they go. They are not always there. So you can always have the capacity developed to swim against the waves by this method.’

A few of these Bhagavad Gita quotes can help bring life back on the right track.

Best Bhagavad Gita Learnings

  1. Whatever happened, happened for the good. Whatever is happening, is happening for the good. Whatever will happen, will also happen for the good
  2. You have the right to work, but never to the fruit of work
  3. Change is the law of the universe. You can be a millionaire, or a pauper in an instant
  4. The soul is neither born, and nor does it die
  5. You came empty handed, and you will leave empty handed
  6. Lust, anger and greed are the three gates to self-destructive hell
  7. Man is made by his belief. As he believes, so he is
  8. When meditation is mastered, the mind is unwavering like the flame of a lamp in a windless place
  9. There is neither this world, nor the world beyond. Nor happiness for the one who doubts
  10. We are kept from our goal not by obstacles, but by a clear path to a lesser goal
  11. A person can rise through the efforts of his own mind; or draw himself down, in the same manner. Because each person is his own friend or enemy
  12. You are only entitled to the action, never to its fruits.
  13. Winter, summer, happiness, and pain; Giving, appearing, disappearing; Non-permanent, all of them; Just try to tolerate.
  14. Death is as sure for that which is born, as birth is for that which is dead. Therefore grieve not for what is inevitable.
  15. If one offers Me with love and devotion a leaf, a flower, a fruit or water, I will accept it.
  16. Man is made by his belief. As he believes, so he is.
  17. You are what you believe in. You become that which you believe you can become.
  18. Now I am become Death, the destroyer of worlds.
  19. The spirit is beyond destruction. No one can bring an end to spirit which is everlasting.
  20. Through selfless service, you will always be fruitful and find the fulfillment of your desires
  21. In the dark night of all beings awakes to Light the tranquil man. But what is day to other beings is night for the sage who sees.
  22. The spirit is beyond destruction. No one can bring an end to spirit which is everlasting.
Salt not only enhances the taste of food, but also makes many other tasks easier for you, know how

Salt not only enhances the taste of food, but also makes many other tasks easier for you, know how

Salt not only enhances the taste of food, but also makes many other tasks easier for you, know how

While an equal amount of salt changes the taste of food, more quantity can also spoil the taste. Consuming salt in the right amount is not harmful in any way, but do you know that you can use salt for many other things as well. Yes, salt is effective in cleaning from cleaning to removing dead skin, cleaning artificial flowers.

Let us know in detail about how to use salt.

Cleaning trick

Copper utensils can also be cleaned with salt. Heat white vinegar. Add 3 teaspoons of salt to it and sprinkle it on the copper utensils and leave it. Then clean.

Teeth whitening

To bring shine to the teeth, mix 1 teaspoon of salt and 2 teaspoons of baking soda together and apply this paste on the teeth.

Egg ka funda

To check if the eggs are not spoiled, mix 2 teaspoons of salt in a glass of water and put the egg in it. If the egg comes up in the water, it is bad. The fresh egg will remain at the bottom.

Protection from insects

If a bee bites, then moisten the place and apply a paste of salt on it.

Fridge cleaning

Stains in the fridge can sometimes become the reason for the smell. So for this you use salt. Prepare a solution by mixing soda, water and salt and scrub it by spraying. The salt will remove both the stain and the smell.

Soaked with salt

In case of sprain or sprain somewhere in the body, soaking salt in hot water provides relief. Whether it is foot sprain or neck pain, salt water is beneficial.

Decoration cleaning

To clean artificial flowers kept at home, put these flowers in a bag with salt and shake the bag vigorously. The flowers will clear.

Eye care

Many times the eyes look puffy when you wake up in the morning. So to reduce this puffiness, put half a teaspoon of salt in 1 cup of hot water. Soak a cloth in it and place it under the eyes. Puffiness will decrease.

Remove dead skin

Exfoliate the skin with salt after bathing. Salt removes dead skin from dry parts of the body like knees and elbows. Take care that if you are exfoliating with salt, then there is no cut or injury in the skin.

You must know these things before adding a relationship

You must know these things before adding a relationship

Before adding a relationship, you must know these things that :-

There are many such truths that will be known after marriage, you will find out today and we will help you to find out this truth.

  1. Has the boy given his education and age correct or not?
  2. Does the boy have his own house or rent?
  3. Does the boy really do job or business or not?
  4. Is the boy in a relationship with someone else?
  5. Is the boy physically and mentally fit or not?
  6. Is the boy getting married under the pressure of his parents?
  7. The boy does not drink alcohol, cigarettes, or any intoxicant every day?
  8. What would the boy’s neighbors and friends say about him?
  9. Is there any police case going on against the boy?
  • Will your future daughter-in-law or wife respect you or not?
  • Isn’t she one of the club or party girls?
  • Does your future daughter-in-law not drink alcohol or cigarettes?
  • Won’t she separate your son from all of you?
  • Is he not older than your son in age?
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