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7 tips to help you find 'the one' on Indian matrimony sites

7 tips to help you find ‘the one’ on Indian matrimony sites

7 tips to help you find ‘the one’ on Indian matrimony sites

The world of online matrimonial websites can open up a whole plethora of choices that were not present earlier. Distance is no longer a constraint in finding your life partner if you dare to ‘login’ with the right intent.

Here are some tips to navigate the space while making the best of what it provides.

1. Do not judge a book by its cover

So you met this seemingly perfect guy online – his profile photo seems nice enough and he has completed his profile where he says he is a ‘super successful banker’ with a ‘fat bonus’. The irony of the online world is that usually two kinds of people put in the effort to create a good profile with a lot of care and attention – those with serious intent and those who are lying. You won’t know whether the person you are interested in is genuine or not, until you invest more time and effort.

2. Do your research

Once you like someone’s profile, do not make a hasty decision and connect or express interest. Google, Facebook and LinkedIn are your best friends here. If the profile has the full name, then it is best to look them up online. Many times, just the name might not be enough especially if it is not unique. Search for the name along with their educational institute or work place or work industry. Also scroll through the first four to five pages of Google search results so as not to miss any news report buried somewhere about his/her past. Many new generation matrimony and dating sites now have a mandatory registration using the Facebook or LinkedIn ID, while also providing the number of friends a person has and whether the profile seems genuine.

3. Do not hesitate to make the first move

The idiom ‘fortune favors the brave’ is very apt while looking for your potential partner or even a simple date online. Now that you have liked someone’s profile and also found that his social profile seems genuine, the only way to really know the person is to initiate contact. Most websites have both the ‘express interest’ and ‘connect’ options. While the former is good to subtly show your intent and see what comes back, the latter is much better at expressing seriousness of intent. So go ahead and show that you are interested in having some connect with the person.

4. Chat sensibly

There are two kinds of people when it comes to online interactions. The extroverts who prefer the spoken word and very quickly insist that it is best to connect on a phone call and the introverts who prefer to chat / SMS for a while before speaking or meeting. It does not matter what the other person says, do what makes you comfortable. If your instinct says that you would want to know more about how he/she behaves before taking it to the next level, then choose to chat. This is a great opportunity to ask more questions, get to know their interests, education history, work history and basic compatibility before connecting at a deeper level. This information can now be used on social networks to verify what you already know.

5. Be on your guard

It is best not to drop your guard until the person’s work profile / education can be confirmed on Facebook or LinkedIn. While this does not provide any guarantee that it is true, it gives a higher degree of comfort to see a large professional network or large friends circle, with recommendations or testimonials, all indicating that the profile is genuine. It is also best not to talk about your family’s wealth or the seniority of your parent’s job profile or your own income, as proud as you may be of these things. Speak on the phone and then meet the person for coffee a few times before going out for a longer outing such as dinner. This provides the opportunity to observe the person in different environments and contexts.

6. Manage your emotions

One thing to remember is that despite reaching this stage, you never know where this is headed until more formal discussions happen. While finding a partner to date or marry is a highly emotional decision that forms a significant part of your life, don’t go ‘all in’ until both of you are clear about your intentions and about where the relationship is headed. Setting yourself up with the right kind of expectations is going to hold you in good stead. Of course, be emotionally invested – but control the extent to which you are willing to go for this person, until you are formally in a relationship.

7. Invest the time

Lastly, while the online world opens up these options, it also means hundreds of useless profiles to go through. It is not for those who are not willing to put in the time or the money to find the right person. There are the new matrimony and dating sites tailored for the urban, busy professionals, which take the effort to curate and provide a smaller list of profiles. Despite that, you need to put in the time to connect, chat, meet and then make the decision yourself.

Welcome to India’s no. #1 matrimony portal.
How to beat the heat to sleep well in summers

How to beat the heat to sleep well in summers

How to beat the heat to sleep well in summers

We are quite aware of the importance of enough sleep in our fast-paced lives, and we also know our health can decline and the mind can go numb with an unhealthy sleep cycle.

If the summer heat is hindering your sleep making you wake up all groggy and grouchy, this article is for you.

Here are some tips to sleep better in the summer

Shower before going to bed

  1. A shower will cool you off and make you feel calmer.
  2. High temperature in the air or in the body makes it uncomfortable for us to sleep.
  3. Do not use very cold water as it decreases the blood flow momentarily, making you feel cool, but a few minutes later you’ll feel hot again.
  4. Instead, a warm shower will help release your body heat.

Sleeping position matters

  • Better to sleep solo and spread out on the bed.
  • Curled position warms up the body and might hinder your sleep.
  • Letting your limbs spread out allows your body to release the heat and not retain it as it does in the latter position.
  • A cooler body will help you sleep more peacefully. Try sleeping in a larger bed if possible.

Water and towel to the rescue

  1. Hot days demand us to drink lots of water. Water mellows the heat and cools us off from within.
  2. Wrap some ice in a towel and place it in the bed to feel cool while sleeping.
  3. However, remove the ice pack if you feel too cold.
  4. Wipe with or put a cold towel on your wrists, ankles, neck, inner elbows, underarms, and behind knees.

Sleep hypnosis

  • Sleep hypnosis works on a person’s mind to achieve better sleep.
  • It aims to identify the negative habits related to sleep and fix the root of the problem.
  • Once these issues are fixed, the person can then sleep better.
  • It involves visualizing calm images and may encourage sleep hygiene improvements to develop healthier sleep routines by following a consistent sleep schedule.

Sleep in a cool, dark room

  1. A hot room won’t allow you to sleep well. So switch off the lights early to reduce warmth from the bulbs.
  2. You can keep the windows open to allow for natural ventilation. But use a cooler or AC if it gets too hot.
  3. Use cooling fabrics for your bedsheets and PJs.
  4. Also, shut the drapes to cool down the room and darken it.
5 tips on how to get over your crush

5 tips on how to get over your crush

5 tips on how to get over your crush

Are you still moping over your lost crush? Let us help you. Besides the things you love about your crush, ask yourself if you share common traits.

Stop idealizing them and try to look at them in an objective way. Do you see the differences and realize you would not want a long-term relationship with them? Congratulations, it is time to move on.

Distract yourself

  • Distract yourself with other things but don’t go looking to fall for a new person!
  • Indulge in an existing hobby or watch good movies, maybe avoid the romantic ones for a while, but binge away on OTTs.
  • Take a trip–travel helps a lot as you go to new places and meet new people.
  • Your life might just turn around from the tour!

Talk about your feelings to a friend

  • Bottling up your feelings will not help you in any way, but rather push you toward depression.
  • Own up to what you are feeling. Let yourself feel sad knowing that your crush does not feel the same way as you.
  • Share your feelings with a friend, discuss with them if they’ve been in a similar situation, and if so how did they overcome it.

Give importance to yourself

  • Make yourself feel special. Do the things you love and enjoy.
  • Pamper yourself with some self-care, meditate to calm the mind, and eat the foods you love.
  • Go get a fancy haircut to feel expensive, or go shopping for a new pair of shoes or clothes that you totally don’t need!
  • This will give you the confidence that you are enough by yourself.

Distance yourself from your crush

  • Minimize contact with the person and if possible create physical distance from the person.
  • If you work together or are in the same class, try not to sit with them.
  • If you know about their routine, change yours so that you don’t end up meeting them too often.
  • Ever heard of the saying out of sight out of mind? It applies well here!

Friendship is not a consolation prize

  • You might want to be friends with the person just to make them a part of your life.
  • But remember it will only make things harder for you.
  • Get closure over your “relationship status” which was never there in the first place.
  • Although it is difficult to end something that never began, look for ways to gather the situation and work an ending.